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Pain
Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS

Pain

Tonight I saw a client that is dealing with some relationship betrayal... and he said “Sometimes I wish I didn’t give a shit. It’s only because I care so much that I feel this awful pain.”

Isn’t this the truth!

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Sex Toys
Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS

Sex Toys

“I don’t want my wife using a sex toy. It isn’t natural and replaces me.”

This kind of thinking comes from some problematic messages we currently deal with in our culture…

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Boundaries
Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS

Boundaries

I often get the question... how can I be unconditionally loving while still setting boundaries?

I usually respond...

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“Sex Addiction”
Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS

“Sex Addiction”

I had a super powerful session with a male client today. After only six sessions of working with me in a sex-positive, evidence-based approach, he was able to say…

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Worthiness
Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS

Worthiness

I grew up in a religious community where personal worth was correlated with sexual “purity.” We had these things called “worthiness interviews” where…

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Shame
Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS Natasha Helfer | LCMFT, CST, CSTS

Shame

After presenting on “the sexual what-if syndrome” this morning at the Sunstone Symposium and hearing the experiences of a 60 year old…

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